It took Thomas 5 years to propose to me! The reason, I played it cool and didn’t drop hints or lay down ultimatums was because, Thomas had been engaged before, to a lady called Uzo. This was about 3 years before I came into the picture. But a month before the wedding, on her hen night, she cheated on him with the stripper that was hired and continued an affair with him (Yes!! jist for another real talk Friday). So needless to say Thomas was not looking at engaging anyone else in a hurry. Fast forward to today, Thomas proposed...

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Binta is Pregnant! When Binta shared the news with me, I was so certain I was dreaming. Everything finally made sense, no wonder she had not been interested in me, she was clearly going through changes. I knew all that love making we did on holiday would pay off! According to my calculations, she was 4 months pregnant at the time she broke the new. I breathed a sigh of relief when a dating scan we both went for confirmed this.  I was able to get the thought of her cheating out of my head. Yes, I feel awful even...

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Nnamdi's Journal May 22nd 2012.  I just do not know what to do anymore, I honestly do not feel there is much more to be done about this matter. Binta and I have been trying to have children for a very long time now, I can see her soul break every time, a friend calls with amazing news on their pregnancy or delivery of their baby. Unfortunately for us, nothing has worked and believe me when I say, we have tried everything from IVF to possible surrogate. The Surrogate did not work out, as we found out that the particular...

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Fast forward to 2014, I had secretly been seeing a counsellor to help me through the traumatic experience. I decided that, my attitude towards Nnamdi after the Holiday had changed, I was no longer interested in Sex and I never wanted to be left alone. I would have nightmare about that night and wake up screaming, unable to tell the love of my life why. Not being able to talk about the ordeal was starting to affect me in ways I never thought it would. The day I decided I would definitely not tell my mum, was the day I...

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As much as I struggled these men used very little effort to hold me down. I could not come to terms with how helpless I was in the situation. How I could sense imminent danger but could do very little to save myself. Do you know how it feels to have the flight reflex taken away from you? They soon got frustrated and brought out a knife, placed it on under my right eye and said if I did not stop struggling they would cut my eyeballs from the socket. I believed every word of the threat.  I kept still...

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Part 2She treats me so badly when Nnamdi is not there and treats me like a princess when he is around. I have never seen anything like it before in my life. As in she be real witch!(February 13th 2012)It was 2012 Nnamdi and I decided to take a trip to a beautiful remote island. We had a really big argument that led to me walking out on him. I wanted to take a walk to clear my mind. The argument was over the dress I was wearing , Nnamdi all of a sudden mid dinner felt it was too...

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Part 1: I have been married to my husband for a total of 9 years and we have no children. My husband and I have come to terms with it and have started looking at fertility treatments. The thing that causes friction between us is our family members, both sides. My mothers concern over the matter is just over the top. A typical example is went to visit her in Zaria. She came to our room at past midnight and knocked on our door. "Ah mama its you, I hope everything is okay" I asked as I opened the door"...

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"...Ngozi my twins are almost due, I am sorry but I need the rooms"  I am a 34 year old single mother of 3 kid’s ages 1, 4 and 5 years old. I did not plan my life like this. In a split second my whole life changed from a happy family setting to just a long struggle. My family abandoned me right from the moment I got married to Nkemka against their wishes. That was 10 years ago! I have heard nothing from them.  They did not like Nkemka because he did not have a degree and he worked...

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Kenny has been begging her twin sister Taiwo, to come out to the party of the century for about 3 weeks now. The day of the party finally arrived and Taiwo was still reluctant to go, she is normally very shy and did not like much of the social scene, Kenny on the other hand is your resident party girl and loved all things social.After much persuasion by Kenny and their friends Sandra and Ufeoma, Taiwo decided to go. On getting there, the girls were turnt and having the time of their lives until this guy walks up to Kenny...

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“The frustrating thing about my marriage is that, I know he is cheating on me. I just cant prove it”“Ijeoma ever since I have known you, our friendship going on 26 years now. You have been saying Eze is cheating on you, if he was, you would have caught him by now or even have something to bring to the table as proof, I beg this babe, free your mind” Anwuli tells Ijeoma. “Anwuli, he probably knows that the vase in the living room has a hidden camera in it, maybe I should change it” “Come this babe, u know...

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